When he pulls away, what’s your first reaction?

I try harder to impress him so he won’t leave.

I give more — call, text, do favors, show up extra.

I pull back, act unbothered, and wait for him to chase.

I panic and need reassurance immediately.

I tell myself he’s just “working through something” and imagine the future.

I stay quiet, swallow my needs, and hope he comes back.

What do you secretly believe you need to be loved?

To be perfect, successful, or desirable.

To give more than I receive.

To never want too much.

To hold on tightly so love doesn’t leave.

To see the best in them and believe they’ll grow.

To stay small and avoid being “too much.”

How does love usually feel for you?

Like a performance I can’t stop.

Like exhaustion from always pouring.

Like a waiting game.

Like a rollercoaster of anxiety and relief.

Like a fantasy that never matches reality.

Like silence where my needs don’t exist.

What’s your biggest fear in relationships?

That if I show my real self, I’ll be rejected.

That if I stop giving, they’ll stop choosing me.

That if I reveal how much I care, I’ll lose them.

That they’ll leave at any moment.

That facing reality will hurt too much.

That my truth is “too much” and I’ll be abandoned.

Which pattern feels most familiar?

Hiding flaws or emotions so I’m “good enough.”

Sacrificing myself to keep love.

Playing it cool when I’m actually attached.

Needing constant validation.

Romanticizing their potential instead of their reality.

Shrinking myself so I don’t get hurt.

If you’re honest, what do you want most from them?

Their approval — proof that I’m worthy.

Their dependence on me.

Their pursuit, to feel wanted.

Their constant reassurance.

Their transformation into the person I dream of.

Their presence, without me needing to beg for it.

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